In his book The Miracle of Mindfulness, Thich Nhat Hahn says the following:
While practicing mindfulness, don’t be dominated by the distinction between good and evil, thus creating a battle within oneself.
Whenever a wholesome thought arises, acknowledge it: “A wholesome thought has just arisen.” If an unwholesome thought arises, acknowledge it as well: “An unwholesome thought has just arisen.” Don’t dwell on it or try to get rid of it. To acknowledge it is enough. If they are still there, acknowledge they are still there. If they have gone, acknowledge they have gone. That way the practitioner is able to hold of his mind and to obtain the mindfulness of the mind.
This is a practice that you can begin right now. By objectively observing your mind, you can learn to detatch yourself from your inner monologue. When you get caught up in a stream of unconscious negative or fearful thoughts, the result will be anxiety, sadness, or a panic attack. Instead, direct your attention to being an outside observer.
When you labale your thoughts as “good” or “bad” or “nice” or “scary,” you’re not objectively observing and you’re creating an emotional response to your thought processes. A major part of overcoming anxiety and depression is learning not to attribute too much emotional meaning to your thoughts.
Again, the practice of mindfulness requires practice, but do not give up. The rewards are well worth your effort.


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January 14, 2007 at 9:57 pm
SA Dave
Interesting. I’m reading a book right now called “The Erroneous Zones,” by Dr Wayne Dyer, that speaks to this, as well. So far, I have to admit I’m skeptical, but I’m trying to keep an open mind. You can check it out on my blog at:
http://social-anxiety-matters.blogspot.com/2007/01/what-im-reading.html
I find that my negative thoughts can come and go at any time without my even realizing it. It’s akin to the nasty habit of nail biting, in my opinion.
The simplistic solutions offered by Dr Dyer and Thich Nhat Hahn bother me. It’s like saying: You have the power to stop biting your nails. All you have to do is acknowledge it and change your thinking. The thing is, if you asked me when was the last time today that I bit my nails, I couldn’t answer. For all I know, I haven’t bitten them all day. Or maybe I was bitting them five minutes before I began writing this. Same goes with negative self-talk. I’m sure there were negative thoughts floating around my noggin today, but for the life of me I don’t remember when or what they were about.
It’s hard to change something or even acknowledge it when there’s no reliable method of catching it to begin with.
Food for thought.
Dave
January 15, 2007 at 1:36 am
Josh
I’m not familiar with Dr. Dyer’s approach, but I am familiar enough with Thich Nhat Hahn to mention that many people refer to mindfulness as “deceptively simple.” The concept itself is very simple: develop an awareness of your behaviors and they will change. This simplicity IS deceptive because doing this is much easier said than done. In order for this to work, you can’t just “start being mindful” and feel life-altering changes. It’s more like something that develops over years of patient practice.
Nail-biting is a good example. If you want to stop nail-biting, you first have to become aware of it. The only way to become aware of it is practice. You might notice once or twice, but most of the time, you’ll be too zoned out to notice. The goal of mindfulness is not to create bliss, but to stop being so “zoned out” all of the time, so that simple behaviors like nail-biting don’t slip by us unnoticed.
The process is especially difficult when those habits have been developed over a lifetime. Constant repetition of bad behaviors (from nail-biting to negative self-talk) enforces them, psychologically and neurologically.
Jon Kabat-Zinn has written a great deal on this subject and his approach has worked for people from all over the world. It’s been a fantastic success that is backed up by sound scientific research. But it isn’t a cure-all, and you only get out of it what you put into it. If you’re lazy — like me — then success may come much more slowly than you’d hope for.
January 15, 2007 at 10:47 am
SA Dave
Thanks Josh. I’ll have to check out Thich Nhat Hahn. Got a book recommendation you can through my way?
In the meantime I’m going to try to be more “aware” of my negative thoughts.
Dave
January 15, 2007 at 5:13 pm
Josh
Sure, take a look at this post. The first two books do a good job of explaining this approach. The first one, Full Catastrophe Living, is a bit drawn out but it contains a wealth of information and advice for dealing with everything from physical pain to depression and anxiety. Also, Mindfulness in Plain English is one of the best books I own, although it goes more into the Buddhist aspects of meditation and mindfulness. Regardless — if you don’t mind talk about Buddhism here and there — I believe it to be the definitive volume on mindfulness. It’s also available online for free here.
January 16, 2007 at 2:49 pm
SA Dave
Thanks again Josh. Great information.
SA D.
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